Anticipation & Release: An intro to Conscious BDSM for men+

About this event

Kink and BDSM are often imagined as a matter of sensation — the flogger, the rope, the moment of impact. But some of the most charged moments in play happen before anything lands. They live in the almost. In the breath held just before a touch.

This workshop isn't about toys, tools, or techniques. It's about something subtler and far more electric: the art of anticipation, and the release that follows. How to draw someone's entire attention to the potential of a single touch — and how to choose the moment to finally give it.

What you'll experience:

- The potential of sensation: Discover why the touch that hasn't happened yet can be more powerful than the one that has, and how to play in that space of longing.

- Drawing focus: Learn to gather all of someone's attention onto one point on the body, until their whole being is waiting, vibrating, asking.

- The rhythm of giving and withholding: Sense when to build tension and when to release it — and how that interplay carries someone deeper into surrender.

- Presence and attunement: Become so attuned to another person's experience that you can feel exactly how far to take them, and when.

- Opening to receive: For those drawn to the more submissive role, explore how to soften into the wait — to let the almost fill the whole body and stay open to what's coming.

Through breath, presence, and slow, deliberate attention, you'll learn what becomes possible when you stop rushing toward the destination and let desire build. Imagine fingers hovering just above your skin — felt at the edge of your vision, not yet touching — and the longing that pours into that gap. This is the territory we'll explore.

The day ends in ritual. After a day of building tools and deepening attunement, we move into a shared anticipation ritual — a space to dive fully into the electricity and depth that this kind of presence makes possible.

Who this workshop is for:

- The curious beginner who wants to explore kink in a conscious, connected way.
- The experienced player ready to refine their timing, presence, and capacity to hold tension.
- Anyone who craves slowness, intention, and the charged space between desire and fulfilment.
- GBTQ+ people ready to explore sensation, surrender, and longing in a safe, queer-centred space.

Why this is different:

This is not a crash course in floggers or rope. It's an invitation into the most overlooked part of play, the waiting, the wanting, the held breath and what opens up when you learn to live there.

No prior experience with kink is needed to attend.

Who's Facilitating?
The day is facilitated by Simon Magnus, a facilitator, intimacy educator and DJ with 25 years’ experience in creative improvisation, somatic trauma work, and conscious sexuality. He blends play, vulnerability, and embodied exploration to support people worldwide in discovering their creative aliveness, relational courage, and deeper intimacy—in workshops, coaching, and community spaces.